Somewhere along the line, it seems as if modern society began to misinterpret what it means to “be yourself”. Most tween/teens/young assume that odd/weird/different behavior is someone being themselves. Thus began this trend of people trying to be quirky and different for the sake of being seen as quirky or different.
However, being different is not synonymous with being yourself.
In my opinion, being yourself means to do your own thing, regardless of what’s popular. Whether you adjust to go with the flow or to go against it, you’re still making an adjustment based solely off of others’ behavior, opinions, ect.
Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with taking measures to improve yourself. In fact, as a young adult, I find myself to be at a constant state of improvement as I work toward becoming the person that I want to be. Therefore, I am steadily adjusting in order to better myself. Improvement is growth. It is essential.
However, to let popular opinion define what you like, believe, wear, listen to, act like and who you want to be? That’s seems so empty. So pointless. That’s not being yourself. That’s being who someone else told you to be.
Of course, we all get off track. Most of us have had at least one period in our lives where we’ve decided to conform in order to be accepted. I’m just saying that at a certain point, we’ve got to grow out of it. If one fails to do so, they may wake up one morning and realize that they are a hallow shell of a person (whoa, that’s harsh). They may realize that they are living their lives as simply a mirror, reflecting society’s projections of worth.
Every single one of us is a unique manifestation of certain skills, passions, perspectives, and personality. We all have one life on this Earth to use those things to their full potential. Why spend- no waste it trying to be who someone says we should? Don’t let popular culture define you. You define you.